Ten Reasons Why You Should Date a Female Gamer

My girlfriend bought a PS3 during boxing week and we were so excited to play it together. Then we found out that she gets motion sickness when playing games, especially first person shooters. It's so sad when I see her start a game only to stop and get discouraged because of the nauseating feeling. I also have it sometimes as well, only not as badly.I beat GTAIV and Arkham Asylum and it is sad to know that she will probably never complete the games she bought. She still has Dragon Age, Killzone 2, Infamous and Uncharted at our place. This tale does have a bright side tho, she can play games that don't involve too much movement like Sims 2, which I like as well. We share a couple of inside jokes about many games, and in my opinion that's one of the best things about having a gamer girlfriend. WOOT.

Awww. This is a great article. I showed my partner the list and we spent the weekend calling each other co-op partner for life. :)We have it a little easier because we have multiple consoles and multiple TVs, so we wouldn't need to share. For us, this is a necessity.

Great article and totally agree. Never went out with a female gamer but anytime ive run into one on XBL or PSN its always pretty cool playing with them especially when they are pretty good themselves. Dont mind the ones that arent really that good aswell aslong as they are trying their best, but the girls that annoy me are the ones that come in & arent even helping the team but more like trying to flirt & just doesnt do crap for the team or the ones that just come in and talk crap but cant even backup their talk.Other then that im cool wit any girl online & who knows, maybe one day ill date a gamer chick and ill keep in mind what u wrote, thanx for the tip tho. ;]

My girlfriend won't go any further than farmville.
She can't use both analogue stick at the same time, she's at that level.
And staying there.It's like getting to first base and from there she's too frigid to go futher haha

First of all, the article was written because I am sick of seeing sites post ridiculously stereotyped pieces on "girl gamers". The female gamers who fit those preconceived notions are not real gamers. They are girls who want to get the attentions of their boyfriends who are doing so in a negative way.Secondly, I don't believe some of the commenters here and back on N4G fully understand that this isn't an article about going out and actively finding a female gamer as your life partner. It's about why you should not be "afraid" of dating someone with the same interests as yourself and learning to embrace it as a foundation of your relationship. My husband and I met through gaming and I am glad that we did. I've had other relationships with gamers, and those fell apart for other reasons. Gaming alone cannot keep a relationship going, nor is it the only reason you should get into one.My post is a positive look at relationships between two gamers and isn't saying things like "oh look, we're dating now so you hold my place in line while I go over there and talk to that guy I know." One of the things I mention is mutual understanding, which also (unless you are a complete moron) includes respecting each other. If you can't respect your partner, then you shouldn't be in a relationship.There are several female gamers out there. You can find us at gaming and comic conventions, the comic book shop, your favourite gaming bar, or retail outlet. The one rule of thumb for guys interested in us is to not jump all over us once you meet us. Treat us like normal people. And don't be upset if we aren't interested in you as more than a friend. Odds are we know plenty of other females who are into gaming. Just be a gentleman, get to know us and see how things progress from there.

I'm actually sad to see that most of the guys who have sledged this article have responded in the way they have.Thank you for showing us that you have given up on yourselves by admitting you can't be bothered to find the gamer girl you long for emanated in your maturity, hence showing the rest of us the exact reason why you are still unhappy or unlucky in love.I honestly thought most males were mature enough and smart enough to accept that women do game (and more than just puzzles or dress-up type games). Thank you for proving me wrong, both here and on N4G.

Word! My ex and I used to just stay home and play Legend of Mana or Resident Evil together on the big screen. :DAnd we love geeky, gamer goods! We'd buy a Companion Cube, enjoy Mario cakes, gawk over Pong clocks...And some of us can be just as obsessive as male gamers in trying to complete the game or in terms of our OCD of tweaking a weapon right.

Personally, I do not think it matters who you date as long as you have a connection with that person. People who are complete opposites sometimes have the best kinds of relationships so you never know.The best thing to do is to just get yourself out there.Kind Regards,
JM

I get the rough end of the stick - being a gamer girl with a girlfriend who only plays games occassionally/casually, I can say that neither of us went into the relationship with the intent of finding a gaming girl! ;)But when social functions come along, I tend to get lumped in with a lot of our mutual male friends, who are more into gaming/anime/technology than their counterparts. Basically, being the "gamer girl" makes me the butch lesbian in the relationship.It would be interesting to see an article on why a non-gamer should settle down with a gamer. I mean, Yuki covered some of the good aspects (we know our way around the tech, we can have a good time at home, we learn to cooperate and share a lot more easily!), but I am sure there are plenty more reasons for the non-gamers to give us geeks a go! :D

I love the article Yuki!!For those that were saying that they don't see why we needed an article to encourage you to go out and find a gamer chick, I say it's not an instructional but rather a reminder as to why should you be considering it. Being single and a gamer lady, I have no qualms accepting a guy for whatever he may be into even if it wasn't games. Unfortunately the sentiment is not shared when it's women who are the gender in question, so of course the reminder will be given. And apparently us lady gamers are a rare breed.Again, thank you Yuki. It's good to see an article about this sort of issue that has a positive spin.Now, who wanted CAKE? XP

This is a WONDERFUL article. I am currently dating a gamer chick, and she is amazing. She fits under 9 out of 10 of these. Just the other day, she helped me solve the Olympian Gardens puzzle in God of War 3.
When that came out I told her that if she came over, I would be glued to the TV for hours playing GOW. Her response was "I'm not coming over to see you......I'm coming over to see God of War 3." Just plain awesome.
SOMETIMES she complains about me playing Modern Warfare, but I understand why (she doesn't like FPS games in the first place lol)
Anyway, point is guys, you SHOULD date a gamer chick. Because BASED ON MY EXPERIENCE, it really is a great plus to the relationship.
@Yukino: You are right about all the BS articles on the internet. Most gamer gals aren't like that.I am very happy to see that gaming is more socially acceptable than it was before. I am very happy to see more girls out there like you all. Keep up the good work! We need more ladies like you all out there!!!!
Thank you for being you!Dtoxz324 PSN/XBL

I thought maybe this was going to be an article aimed at guys who arn't gamers. What male gamer needs to be told that they should date a gamer girl? What gaming idiot has been going around telling other gamers that they shouldn't date gamer girls?Most gamers I know have settled for non-gamer girlfriends because they can't find gamer girlfriends. This is not saying that they don't run into girls while gaming, it's just considered rude by most to ruin someone else's game time by having someone trying to hit on a girl every time one pops up; camping/griefing is still fair game though. >;)You do not need to tell guy gamers to date a gamer girl. A gamer girlfriend is like the holy grail for gamer guys. I would suggest a better article be an instructional for male gamers on how to find all these aparently available gamer girls that can't land gamer boyfriends. Really, if you are a single girl gamer who doesn't have at least a handful of guy gamers irl trying to woo you with their kill/death ratio, gamerscore, or phat lewtz; it's not that we're not interested, it's just that google didn't return any walkthrough guides on finding you. =P

great! what is this!?I think women have problems O_oSome sites I see women complaining about being a girl gamer, some complain about how they get abused, others complain how they get treated as a female gamer (Nintendo DS bullcrap girly games) and now we have this article talking about why men should date girl gamers:/Anyway all these bullcrap will be sorted out by Gamecrush:/ or PlayDate or Pay to Play Girl Gamers.

Sure we've seen these articles before but I think this is one of the better posts I've read on geek dating, Yuki; in fact I've experienced every point here as part of a gaming couple.Explaining the awesome set of gaming headphones my partner got me for my birthday is not so easy for my non-gaming friends to understand nor the reason why I'd rather spend our anniversary in front of our TV with pizza and a co-op mission.I love my geek!

Great post!I agree with a lot of that, but I have to say that it's never worked out for me in the past if my BF was a gamer, though that could have just been down to his character obviously!I have said in the past that I'd not make gaming a pre-requisite to dating someone, but then again I don't have any set expectations at the moment anyway! Based on my experience I guess I want to make sure that there's a good mix of interests and hobbies that we don't necessarily share.I'm not really making sense, plus I don't really know what my point is!Again though, loved the post and the writing. :)

For number 7, since my eyes are better, I helped him out with Dead Rising when it came to him having to be outside in the dark. He tried to go the shadows and he had a hard time seeing, so I told him where to go and kept an eye out for the "gangsters" (they're the ones in the jeep/car with the rap music (or hip hop?) playing). I've even given him heads up about where the item is, and he's even asked me to be his eyes and ears for certain games.

"6. Awesome Presents. You want a game or an accessory for your birthday/anniversary/Valentineu00e2u0080u0099s Day? You got it. We love finding cool t-shirts, hoodies and belt buckles to add to your wardrobe. And if we pick you up an XBL or PSN card, we know youu00e2u0080u0099ll quickly find something to spend it on."

:3 I did this for my boyfriend for Christmas. He also got me video games for Christmas and got me games on Steam.

Capitalism, ho!

Also, number 4, I want a gaming themed wedding. I already told my boyfriend this. xD Instead of alcohol, I told we should all play kinect (neither of us drink alcohol, anyway) and just make a fool of ourselves during our wedding. Wouldn't be too expensive and our gamer friends would have a lot of fun. At least I hope. xD

Theres a few stupid comments here that dont mean anything really, what a lot of generalised nonsence. Girl Gamers are just Chicks guys! They'll act like them too (i.e. weirdly different)...but they love GAMES...anyway check out http://www.gamerdating.com for some real gamer girls ;) I should know lol!

i'm a 12 year old girl that goes on the Xbox and i find that loads of lads flirt with me and ask me out and stuff. I think it is sweet that some people might go as far as marrying someone that they meet over the Xbox or PS3. just to let you know, it is SOOOO annoying when a guy that is like 3 years older than you starts flirting with you especially when you have a boyfriend! xXx

Nicely done! I may just have to share this with my fella. ;-)

My boyfriend does't appreciate numbers 7 and 8. Even if he dies over and over and over. I make a peep while he's playing and he goes NUTS

Oh and I forgot to mention my girl loves rail shooters, especially zombie ones. We beat House of the dead 2+3, overkill and dark chronicles. The fact that she can and wants to play those makes me so happy.

My girlfriend bought a PS3 during boxing week and we were so excited to play it together. Then we found out that she gets motion sickness when playing games, especially first person shooters. It's so sad when I see her start a game only to stop and get discouraged because of the nauseating feeling. I also have it sometimes as well, only not as badly.

I beat GTAIV and Arkham Asylum and it is sad to know that she will probably never complete the games she bought. She still has Dragon Age, Killzone 2, Infamous and Uncharted at our place. This tale does have a bright side tho, she can play games that don't involve too much movement like Sims 2, which I like as well. We share a couple of inside jokes about many games, and in my opinion that's one of the best things about having a gamer girlfriend. WOOT.

My girlfriend is a gamer girl and we will most definitely be co-op partners for life. You forgot another reason though, reason 11. the looks on your non-gamer girl dating friends faces when you tell them about staying up all night pwning noobs with your girl

Ughh! No thank you.

I still don't know what N4G is, and now I'll never support their site.

Awww. This is a great article. I showed my partner the list and we spent the weekend calling each other co-op partner for life. :)

We have it a little easier because we have multiple consoles and multiple TVs, so we wouldn't need to share. For us, this is a necessity.

Great article and totally agree. Never went out with a female gamer but anytime ive run into one on XBL or PSN its always pretty cool playing with them especially when they are pretty good themselves. Dont mind the ones that arent really that good aswell aslong as they are trying their best, but the girls that annoy me are the ones that come in & arent even helping the team but more like trying to flirt & just doesnt do crap for the team or the ones that just come in and talk crap but cant even backup their talk.

Other then that im cool wit any girl online & who knows, maybe one day ill date a gamer chick and ill keep in mind what u wrote, thanx for the tip tho. ;]

Fantastic article. I see nothing wrong with a gamer girlfriend... I just need to get off MW2 and find one!

Fanboy.....I think this is the first article where nobody said that in any comments. I should write an article on why I've never heard of a "Fangirl".

I love this article! My boyfriend and I play games together a lot. Often music games, but he was so excited when I got FFXIII, he keeps texting me asking for hints on boss or eidolon battles. It's a good time.

My girlfriend won't go any further than farmville.
She can't use both analogue stick at the same time, she's at that level.
And staying there.

It's like getting to first base and from there she's too frigid to go futher haha

I believe that this is a nice positive article. ^-^ Very nice read Yukino!

First of all, the article was written because I am sick of seeing sites post ridiculously stereotyped pieces on "girl gamers". The female gamers who fit those preconceived notions are not real gamers. They are girls who want to get the attentions of their boyfriends who are doing so in a negative way.

Secondly, I don't believe some of the commenters here and back on N4G fully understand that this isn't an article about going out and actively finding a female gamer as your life partner. It's about why you should not be "afraid" of dating someone with the same interests as yourself and learning to embrace it as a foundation of your relationship. My husband and I met through gaming and I am glad that we did. I've had other relationships with gamers, and those fell apart for other reasons. Gaming alone cannot keep a relationship going, nor is it the only reason you should get into one.

My post is a positive look at relationships between two gamers and isn't saying things like "oh look, we're dating now so you hold my place in line while I go over there and talk to that guy I know." One of the things I mention is mutual understanding, which also (unless you are a complete moron) includes respecting each other. If you can't respect your partner, then you shouldn't be in a relationship.

There are several female gamers out there. You can find us at gaming and comic conventions, the comic book shop, your favourite gaming bar, or retail outlet. The one rule of thumb for guys interested in us is to not jump all over us once you meet us. Treat us like normal people. And don't be upset if we aren't interested in you as more than a friend. Odds are we know plenty of other females who are into gaming. Just be a gentleman, get to know us and see how things progress from there.

I'm actually sad to see that most of the guys who have sledged this article have responded in the way they have.

Thank you for showing us that you have given up on yourselves by admitting you can't be bothered to find the gamer girl you long for emanated in your maturity, hence showing the rest of us the exact reason why you are still unhappy or unlucky in love.

I honestly thought most males were mature enough and smart enough to accept that women do game (and more than just puzzles or dress-up type games). Thank you for proving me wrong, both here and on N4G.

Me and my gf get along better when we're playing games, well except for when she's holding me back on Borderlands lolol.

Word! My ex and I used to just stay home and play Legend of Mana or Resident Evil together on the big screen. :D

And we love geeky, gamer goods! We'd buy a Companion Cube, enjoy Mario cakes, gawk over Pong clocks...

And some of us can be just as obsessive as male gamers in trying to complete the game or in terms of our OCD of tweaking a weapon right.

The only video games girls like to play is racing games. Every girl I usually play with, they'll only play games like the Sims or that retarded OMGPop site.

Personally, I do not think it matters who you date as long as you have a connection with that person. People who are complete opposites sometimes have the best kinds of relationships so you never know.

The best thing to do is to just get yourself out there.

Kind Regards,
JM

Too bad theres actually no girls like this in real life.