Unless someone who approached you harassing, following, verbally/physically/sexually assaulting, or becoming violent or insulting towards you after being rejected or ignored are inconveniences of social normalcy.

If boys will be boys is harassing or verbally/physically/sexual assaulting then you and I have very different opinions & expectations of the male gender and their behavior.

If women should just get over themselves if they have an issue with being harassed and insulted by a stranger who can pose a physical threat to her then I’m seriously questioning why you aren’t telling the males to get over themselves rather than state they are the victims.

After all if women need to get over themselves for being harassed as it’s a inconvenience of social normalcy then surely males need to get over that they are in a position to be rejected of social normalcy.

Perhaps men who feel victimized by women disrespecting, ignoring, berating, humiliating them for politely approaching them should see it as an inconvenience of social normalcy and get over themselves.

Or maybe just maybe people can stop diminishing others problems, telling others they aren’t victims & playing who’s the real or bigger victim and realize some decency/respect would be best suited for social normalcy.

Clearly the balance is far tipped in the favor of men in most social situations, but I’m happy to see it acknowledged that sometimes we’re not being abusers, but instead shiftless, scared cowards who are intimidated by the power of women over us. It’s not flattering, but it seems to be true.

Thank you for writing this article about Hey Baby… it’s exactly the tonic I needed after reading so many half baked polemic reviews, each one more eager than the last to dissect the so-called “rape culture.”

It’s as if not a single reviewer had ever been to Italy or France? Or anywhere outside the United States for that matter…

I’ve seen countless friend return from traveling abroad, complete with a radiant glow and sparkle in the eye, talking about how flattering and sexual the men where… really relishing the experience of being offered the power to accept or reject.

Why do so many people feel that it is advantageous to stifle the expression of male sexuality through shame, but balk at the notion of empowering women through positive sexuality?

Also, regarding your dress comment, I was also thinking how it relates to women, particularly in Islamic cultures. They wear hijabs out of respect for their bodies and to prevent “temptation.” Sure, it may have an influence on men’s behavior in a superficial sense, but do the men really change or desire women any less? I doubt it, but it’s is extremely rare that a man will even talk to a woman unless a woman strikes-up a conversation first. This is their culture, but many people see it as “oppression.” This is how they’ve dealt with it, though and according to many women I’ve spoken to living in Islamic countries, it works very well. Then, I get dragged to see a movie like Sex and The City 2 and I realize Carrie is attempting to discuss a culture she’s never been exposed to, alluding to the fact that the women have “no voice.” It’s a bit backwards and confusing. I mean, I do agree that talking can help, but I’m not sure talking is enough to change the demeanor of men.

Either way, I don’t disagree with your viewpoint by any means, but I do feel there are better ways to deal with it.