I’m not big on self help books. I figure why spend my time reading those when I have the internet and friends who are there when I need someone. But Brene Brown’s How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead intrigued me because if I have learned one thing in the last five years, it is that change will happen. You have to be ready for it, embrace it and make the changes work for you. Otherwise you are in for a major shock when it happens to you.
Dr. Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She works from the idea that feeling vulnerable can be the beginning of feeling things like joy, innovation and creativity. She says, “Everything I’ve learned from over a decade of research on vulnerability has taught me this exact lesson. Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in. Most importantly, vulnerability is not weakness.”
These are important words to remember and read through the course of this book. Especially since we are in a time where layoffs happen quite often and you never know where you might end up. I spent the beginning of my career in Information Technology. As a techie, it came easy to me and the pay was great. I would change jobs here and there, but it wasn’t until I was laid off that I really faced change. The layoffs were a surprise to me. But after soul searching, I decided that I was going to use the opportunity to change careers. To try something new and use my technical skills as a bonus but not the main aspect of the position. While some interviews were awkward, I landed a position in my new career and haven’t looked back. Now I take every opportunity to try and learn new things. Because you never know when change will be forced on you. It was also during those nine months off that I worked on GamingAngels daily (often more hours than a regular job) to try and make it the site it is today.
In reading the book, you should be asking yourself the questions that Daring Greatly explores. Blog Her also has a Daring Greatly conversation page. Here you can dive into the topics with other women and discuss the topics in the book. If you have been feeling in a rut, or have had a nagging feeling in the back of your mind, you should check out Daring Greatly. It may be just the inspiration you are looking for, so you can start the next phase of your life.
This is a paid review for BlogHer Book Club and I also was given a complimentary copy of Brene’ Brown’s book. All opinions expressed are my own.